Oh boy did I need this video today! Not to put a spoiler in the text here but this is one of my biggest habits that I’ve been working to transform for decades! I’ve definitely come a long way but I still find myself bound by my own expectations of what it means to be a good friend, partner, mother. At the heart of this for me is a need to heal my perception of self as someone who has to earn the attention and love of others. The belief is that their love isn’t based on who I am but what I can do.
It certainly isn’t black or white and as I said, I’ve healed the lions share of this old hurt, but I still find myself reaching for this habit as a default reaction when I don’t know what else to do. Slowly I’m becoming more at peace with not knowing and being able to admit it.
What is it you ask? Well you’ll just have to watch and find out. 😉
Please leave a comment below and tell me if this is one of your habits and if so what are you doing to change it? Thanks for watching.
Love,
Danielle
Really enjoyed this video. It was something I needed to hear. Thank you for sharing these videos! They are a real blessing!
So welcome dearest. Me too!
I love Mother’s teachings. This one in particular really spoke to my heart thank you for offering it.
You’re so welcome. Thanks for watching and sharing. Hugs to you!
I am on my third read of Pathway to Love. This time I am doing the journalling and all the meditations. It takes discipline not to give reactive advice. It takes discipline to be mindful. Sometimes I feel like I have reached an understanding or let go of a core issue only to find there is yet another layer there for me to experience. This work is changing my life though and, after searching and exploring for the last 20 years, this really resonates – I feel like I have the tools for my journey. I am loving it, even though I am uncomfortable nearly every day at some time or another! I know that I am becoming the best version of myself and that I am growing. Thank you so much for all that you share. I live on an isolated farm in Australia, yet I can sit down, open my laptop and watch this and realise that I am not alone, there are others out there feeling and healing and unraveling and it brings so much comfort to me to know this. Namaste.
Thank you so much for watching and sharing dearest Jen! I’m grateful that one of the many miracles that comes out of Mother’s teachings is loving discipline. For me it’s no longer about “should” but how do I want to show up for myself and others today. It’s an honor to walk the path of awakening with you my friend. Keep diving deep, you’re so worth it!!
Well that was a timely nip and tuck I needed to hear right now. While, like you Danielle, I feel I’ve healed lots of this behavior, but it has been creeping back into my sphere little by little to where I didn’t even notice it. Things have not felt good for me for a long time where my daughter is concerned and, not surprising, it has driven a deeper divide between us and has not felt good for her either. Two nights ago we had a very difficult conversation where, I took ownership of what my role had been and said I would work to do better and she agreed to do better as well. However, not until seeing this video did I have a full picture of really how I have been operating. My need to “save” my children is where I believed I was coming from. But in truth it was the need to prove myself worthy of their love. Mother’s timely and loving message has helped me see this so clearly. I am so grateful for this video Danielle. Thank you so much!
Gorgeous share Heidi! I adore your honesty and bright light. Yes indeed it’s one thing to practice this with our friends and another thing all together to do it with our children. Since this video, I’ve been really watching my “mom” motivations. Love you!
Thank you so much for this counsel on not reacting to another’s pain by giving advice!
You’re so welcome Betty. Thanks for watching and sharing. Big hugs to you.
Thank you Mother and Danielle, this particular subject has really hit home and I appreciate the compassionate action in bringing it to light in my own life! It will take a lot of work but all will happen in time and on time. Each video has been so relevant and touching but this one seems especially resonant. I look forward to the next one.
You’re welcome dearest. Thank you for sharing. Baby steps for us all and before we know it, we’re flying!
Yep, uh huh…..
I’m sure I’ve been known to do this
Mother is beautiful and speaks as such. The ?Pours out from her to us!!
Yes it does my friend, yes it does. Hugs.
THANKS for ALL your LOVING TEACHINGS .
Wish the clarity would come faster. Decades seem
too long for someone already 70 !
I know what you mean Claudene. But I know you have an enormous amount of clarity. It’s just tough to realize the journey is never over and that those aha moments will be spread out along the way but not at the intervals we would like. Big hugs to you dearest.