Oh boy is this a big one for me. My answer-maybe, sort of, possibly? I need to stop trying to fix others because it never works and I use a lot of energy and time that would be better used elsewhere. Why, why, why do I do it, my lament goes. For me two dynamics are in play. One states that pain is bad and if someone I love or care about is in pain, I need to fix it so they can be happy again. Their pain makes me uncomfortable. And I’ll go to ridiculous lengths to feel comfortable again. The second one is the sad, old belief that if I can fix someones problem, I’ll have earned their love and affection. This new teaching of Mother’s brings home the understanding that the only person I’m trying to fix is myself and I suspect I’m just annoying others alone the way.
But am I or anyone else actually broken? Mother says no and I’m beginning to believe Her. Better to acknowledge that we all have a way out of our pain or problem. We may not know what it is in the moment, but if we’re willing, the answer will come from within and outside ourselves. So now I’m trying to focus my efforts on support rather than endlessly suggesting solutions the moment someone expresses a problem. Even if I’m that someone. I want to know how I can support them or myself. “What do you need from me?” I ask myself and others when I remember Mother’s words. So far I like the results.
Thanks for watching. I hope this made you go deeper and helped you discover another wonderful piece of Self, even if it was more shadow than light. Please leave a comment below and let me know if you’re ready to stop this cycle or not.
Love,
Danielle
SO…. helpful. I’m a major ‘fixer’ who’s been trying not to do it in recent years and failing!! Ugh! Even that Mother Mary just acknowledges it as a problem and that it’s not just me is helpful… Thank you!
Oh no my dear Fiona, I too belong to the fixer club. 😉 It is so valuable to know we aren’t alone no matter what we’re trying to shift. Hugs.
This is so timely for me especially for myself and a friend that I am taken care of. Seeing myself or another as broken needs me to want to fix myself and my friend in truth because I see pain as something uncomfortable and is bad. MM has touched my heart to the truth. Thanks ?
You are so completely welcome dearest Linda. Hugs to you.
Oh my God, Am I ever!!!!
It’s like she was speaking directly to me. I’m sure I’m not the only one. I am taking psychology courses..going for my B.A., with mothers counsel and my courses, I hope stop being codependent. Thank you mother for helping me finish school and a new job! I am done being codependent!!
Amen Sister, me too! I’ve spent too much time and energy trying to make others into someone or something else because of my own issues. I love knowing you’re out there moving in the same empowered direction!
It’s always such a joy to listen to our dear Mother and know how much we are loved -just as we are, but with one goal : to grow in love every day of our life ! And yes, there will be something to improve until our last breath, that just why we came in a body. For now let’s be grateful for the shining light of God that we all have, most of the time no word are needed other than our smile and eyes contact to share His Love !
Blessings always and a very sincere Thank You Danielle for sharing. Love,
Marie-Paule
Beautifully said Marie. Thank you for sharing. I love the image of our smile and eyes being the share point of love.
Hi Danielle,
very true, these words of Mother Mary through you, help very much to go on trusting the way things unfold, without stepping into the developing of others….but being of service and finding joy in doing so.
Thank you so much!
Lovejoy
Helga
You’re so welcome dearest.
Thanks so much Danielle! Some days I just need to hear Mother say ” Hello Beloved one!” and I feel better! I have been watching you for a few years now and I cannot thank you enough for making this available to us! This teaching is for me today because I have no desire to deal with pain. I do realize now that my greatest epiphanies have come through my pain. Still don’t like it though! Blessings! Conny
I’m so glad you’ve gotten so much out of Mother’s videos Conny. Thank you for being a part of it all. Yes, darn it me too! So much of my own growth has come through my pain. But like you I’m finding more peace with how it all works. Hugs to you.